Growth Through Grace

Shame is brutal. And anticipating shameful scenarios is even worse. It creates an enormous amount of emotional and spiritual overload. It makes it difficult to trust others, even those who love us without agenda, hard to invest in long term relationships and...

Respecting Those You Lead

We know that those we lead will put up with our imperfections, but the thing that they’d like in return is respect. Jesus’ striking respect for the dignity of His disciples was never more apparent than when Peter denied the Son of God and Luke tells us...

Power-Hungry Leadership Doesn’t Work

If you get your way, not the people you lead, why should you care? Sometimes there’s a euphoric overlap between the thrill of victory and the exhale from those you’re asking to follow you, but you can save yourself and them a lot of disappointment if...

On Shaming Theology

Almost all of us let it get to us. I’m not sure why. Until we awaken to the disconnect between our theology and what we’re actually experiencing as a believer (or even after the awakening) we take on the blame, guilt, humiliation, and the tyranny of the...

Transformative Pastors Stay the Course

Without a doubt, churches should embrace change. Culture, language, music, and the concerns and needs of everyday Christians and seekers of Christ used to reshape every decade or so, now they change daily. Don’t be trapped by someone who is trying to keep you...

The One #Shame Forgets

When Judy and I lost our church in the Northwest over 20 years ago our world fell apart. The wonderful ministry our hearts had been welded to was suddenly over. We moved, leaving behind cherished friends, our children’s entire life (we even had to leave our...

Pastor, You Feel Unsafe Because You Are

A friend asked me if I’d be willing to spend time with his young pastor. We shared a meal and talked about church. The more the young pastor talked the more uneasy I felt. I’ve learned over the years to identify that uneasiness as the Spirit compelling me...